The emotions human do most to avoid in life,and this is valuable. They are painful emotions for us to experience,but they,too,serve a valuable function,one which becomes apparent once we hear the message.
Guilt tells you that you have violated one of your own highest standards,and that you must do something immediately to ensure that you are not going to violate that standard again in the future. Guilt is the ultimate leverage for many people in changing a behavior. However,some people try to deal with their guilt by denying and
suppressing it. Unfortunately,this rarely works. Guilt does not go away;it comes back stronger.
1.Acknowledge that you in fact,violated a critical standard you hold for yourself.
2.Absolutely commit yourself to making sure this behavior will never happen again in the future.Rehearse in your mind how,if you could live it again,you could deal with the same situation you feel guilty about in a way that is consistent with your own highest personal standards.